Today we will discuss setting life goals / career goals, and how to make sure you go for a home run.
First, let me ask you a question. Do you have this constant feeling that there is more to life? That something is missing? If yes, then this article is for you. If not, then you are likely already on the right path and can benefit more from other articles/content on our website.
But If you do feel like something is missing, this is actually a common feeling. If you look around at everyone you know, you will notice that people lead 3 types of lives: miserable, mundane and joyful.
Some people lead miserable lives of quiet or not so quiet desperation. They are dreading most of their days. Unfortunately, I’ve been there more than once in my life. And I am VERY sorry if you are leading this type of life now, as I remember with every fiber of my being how painful it was.
Other people lead mundane but content lives, where they are fine with their life but they don’t really enjoy it most of the time and they have a constant feeling that something is missing and/or they are on the wrong path. I’ve been there too. This place is much less painful but still not a place you want to be in.
And yet other people lead meaningful, joyful and exciting lives where they feel they are in the right place at the right time heading in the right direction doing the right work with the right people. And I can finally say that this is the type of life I am living now.
So ask yourself this: how does your life stack up?
I have thought a lot about why people adjust their life goals / career goals and dramatically change their life to move away from a miserable or mundane life towards a joyful life. And the sad truth is that life usually smacks people on the head and they get really close to losing it all, which forces them to make dramatic changes. I have never, NEVER, seen or even heard of anybody who just suddenly decided to change without something external influencing them to make a major change.
Have you ever met someone who just woke up one day, redesigned their life goals / career goals and changed their life? I have not.
And if this is true, if people will only change if life smacks them on the head, we have a big problem. You can only be hit in your head so many times before it causes some trauma.
First, when life hits us by the head, we may or may not get a second chance. It may be too late to change or the path is unclear.
Second, many people never get hit on the head; they just continue to lead a miserable existence into the sunset of their lives. I had way too many members of my family going through life and living their life this way. Clients as well.
And third, even if life hits someone on the head there is no guarantee they will make changes. I have seen this too many times too. I am sure you did too.
So the danger I see for you is that if you are on the wrong path, if you do feel miserable or unhappy or barely content, you may end up following this path until it is too late. Life may never hit you on the head strong enough for you to notice or it may hit you on the head when it is too late to change.
And the opportunity I see for you is to be one of those rare people who will reexamine the life goals / career goals and take action. You can be someone who changes without external circumstances pushing you, without running the risk of losing it all or missing out on the life and career you could have, because you never had an event to force your hand to make significant changes.
If you don’t know my story, I shared it in detail in my bio.
I had two-second chances in my life. Both were health related. One occurred when I was 16 and one a few years ago, at the age of 32.
Both times I knew change was necessary before I became incredibly ill. Although, the first time around I was too silly to recognize all the lessons and make necessary adjustments that led to a quiet unhappy few years after the event.
The second time, maybe because I was older, I realized that it was life smacking me on the head saying, “hey, excuse me, what the hell are you doing? You have important things to do. Stop wasting time.”
The second time around I seemed to be more aware that I was on the wrong path even before the event happened. I knew I was not pursuing my life’s mission. At the time, I accepted this way of living. I thought I could stretch it for a few more years to save more money, to gain more skills and to become more financially stable. From a financial perspective, my career was going great. I was making way more money than most of my peers, yet I knew that was not my life’s work. And I knew without a shadow of a doubt that I was wasting valuable time.
I was lucky to get a second chance in life, twice. And I am grateful life forced my hand to make the change that I knew was necessary but could not do by myself.
So if you think you are leading a miserable or mundane life, you should make a change without waiting for that life-changing event to force you into this.
Now let’s talk about adjusting your life goals.
As you examine your life goals, as you think about who you want to be and how you want to live your life, don’t be realistic.
How many times in your life will you take massive action to change your life? Very few, if at all. It is a huge effort.
If you will set yourself on the wrong, or mediocre, path now, you may never again summon enough time, desire, strength, and commitment to change your life.
You may only get one real shot.
So don’t be realistic. You deserve to give the best fighting chance to reinvent your career and change your life.
Moreover, for you to have enough fuel to push towards change as hard as it takes for as long as it takes, the change you are working towards must be something you really desire. It must be something that will keep you going when things will get tough.
Because they will get tough.
You need powerful hunger, something deep and meaningful. As you are designing your life goals / career goals, your vision for your life, settle for nothing less than a home run. Do something that counts. Don’t settle on a vision that is uninspiring. You will just waste your time if you do. Because you will give up midway.
You need to set your vision so that it demands all the best in you. You will have to be your highest self to reach it. Your life goals must be so shiny, so exciting that you will look forward to the morning to work on it and make it happen. It must be something that you would do for free.
In fact, it must be something you would pay someone so you could do it.
What is your greatest dream?
Do you want to write?
Do you want to act?
Do you want to start your own business? If so, what kind of business, and why?
Do you want to write songs and perform them to millions of people?
Do you want to be the CEO of a Fortune 500 company?
If you don’t know the answer, answer as if you knew what to say. Then ask yourself why. Ask yourself why 5 times to get to the core reason why you want to do something.
What is that one thing that will demand the best of you? What is that one thing you would do if you had more money than you ever will need? What is one thing you would pay someone so THAT you could do it?
We don’t know how long we have on this planet. It can all end tomorrow morning or in an hour, or in 40 years. What are you afraid of?
Don’t be shy. Don’t be afraid. View it as a game. Steve Job’s quote comes to mind.
“Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
You don’t know if you have 10 years left, 20 years left, a year or a day. What is there to be afraid of? Our days are numbered. We are not here forever. So leave a mark. Be brave. We are in this together.
In fact, we developed our training programs to help you realize your potential and take action to reclaim the life you can have without waiting for life to smack you on the head. Our intention is not only to equip you with the necessary skills, insights, and strategies to succeed in your career / business, but to be a wake up call, a pivot point in your life to nudge you to the right path. The kind I wish I had before I almost lost everything. Our intention is to guide you to make a change that you deep down already know is necessary.
Because after all, if not now – when? And if not us – who?
To wrap this up here is some easy but vitally important homework for you. Take a hard look at your life goals / career goals. Take a hard look at your life. Do you feel joy as you go through your days? If you don’t, take action now, while you still have time on this earth. You owe it to yourself and to the world.
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